Bennett Cooperman & Meryl Nietsch-Cooperman

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Indecisive Men — What Is the Cause?

First presented in a public seminar at the Aesthetic Realism Foundation, New York City

November 30, 2022 By Bennett Cooperman

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The blade of certainty and the smoke of doubt. — Eli Siegel, “Prosody Is Ours” The way men are decisive and indecisive has confused and even tormented us—it did me. I learned there can be a good kind of indecision in a man that comes from his desire to know, the thing in him that […]

Filed Under: Bennett Cooperman, Men's Questions

Jackie Gleason & Two Kinds of Anger

First presented at the Aesthetic Realism Foundation, NYC

November 28, 2022 By Bennett Cooperman

Eli Siegel and Aesthetic Realism have explained something completely new about an emotion that troubles people very much—anger. We have two kinds of anger, one makes us strong and the other makes us weak. In The Right of Aesthetic Realism to Be Known #188, Mr. Siegel writes: Aesthetic Realism says that a good anger has […]

Filed Under: Actors & the Drama, Bennett Cooperman

Roughness & Grace in “They Can’t Take That Away from Me”

Originally presented at the Aesthetic Realism Foundation, NYC

November 26, 2022 By Bennett Cooperman

A recording I love is the great Louis Armstrong singing “They Can’t Take That Away from Me” by George and Ira Gershwin. His solo rendition comes in the midst of a duet with Ella Fitzgerald from the 1956 album Ella & Louis, one of my all-time favorites. And I think the very opposites we studied […]

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George M. Cohan: A Man’s Big Question—Can I Be Strong & Kind at Once?

First presented in a public seminar at the Aesthetic Realism Foundation, NYC

September 24, 2017 By Bennett Cooperman

The question “Can I be strong and kind at once—and do I want to be?” is huge in the life of every man. I wanted to be a kind person, but when push came to shove, I thought being kind was sappy and made you soft.

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Steve Jobs — How Much Feeling Does a Man Want to Have, and What Kind?

First presented at the Aesthetic Realism Foundation, NYC

November 30, 2016 By Bennett Cooperman

In The Right of Aesthetic Realism to Be Known Eli Siegel writes: The pleasure we are proudest of, the emotion that is largest, arises from knowing the world as it is, wholly as it is, exactly as it is, tremendously as it is, poetically as it is, scientifically as it is, personally as it is. […]

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Welcome!

Bennett Cooperman and Meryl Nietsch-Cooperman

We’re proud as husband and wife of 28 years to study and teach Aesthetic Realism, founded in 1941 by Eli Siegel, the American poet and philosopher.

Here you’ll find information about the ways this education has changed our lives—as to love and marriage, the understanding of eating disorders, the art of acting, and the everyday questions of men and women.

Update

I’m very proud to have written the Aesthetic Realism Foundation’s 2024 fundraising letter. In it, I tell some of the great good effect of this education on my life, including as to love, acting, the hope to have big feelings and what opposes that. You can read the letter here.

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