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Does the Desire to Be Kind Make a Person Strong?

With a consideration of “The Pathfinder” by James Fenimore Cooper. First presented at the Aesthetic Realism Foundation, NYC

August 3, 2015 By Bennett Cooperman

I once thought kindness and strength had nothing to do with each other. I wanted to be kind when, in high school, I joined a program to teach poor children in Ft. Lauderdale to read. But I felt to be strong you had to look out for yourself, beat out other people, get what you […]

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Generosity Vs. Grudgingness in Men

With a consideration of Stendhal’s great novel, The Red and the Black. First presented at the Aesthetic Realism Foundation, NYC

August 3, 2015 By Bennett Cooperman

In an Aesthetic Realism class some years ago, Class Chair Ellen Reiss asked me: “Do you think you are generous or grudging?” At the time, I didn’t see how much that question had my whole life in it—these opposites had battled in me. For example, in 1973 I was cast in a play at a […]

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What Kind of Emotions Are Men Looking For?

First presented in a public seminar at the Aesthetic Realism Foundation, New York City.

August 3, 2015 By Bennett Cooperman

“Do you think everyone is in a fight between great emotion and little emotion?” That is a question I was asked in one of the classes I attend for Aesthetic Realism consultants and associates, taught by Ellen Reiss. And the answer, I’ve learned, is yes. The deepest purpose of every person, Aesthetic Realism shows, is […]

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Should a Man Understand His Anger, or Just Have It?

First presented in a public seminar at the Aesthetic Realism Foundation, NYC

August 3, 2015 By Bennett Cooperman

I learned from Aesthetic Realism that a man needs to do all he can to understand his anger in order to be proud of himself. And the main thing we need to understand is that we have two completely different kinds of anger. In his lecture, Aesthetic Realism And Anger, Eli Siegel said: In a […]

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Edwin Forrest — What Makes a Man’s Life Large or Small?

With a discussion of the life and work of the great 19th century actor Edwin Forrest. First presented at the Aesthetic Realism Foundation.

July 11, 2015 By Bennett Cooperman

Edwin Forrest

Though men may not know it, each of us has a hope to be large, to have big, accurate feeling and comprehensive thought about people and the world. Eli Siegel, founder of the education Aesthetic Realism, wrote: There is…a great tendency of the self to be as large as it can be, to be as […]

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Welcome!

Bennett Cooperman and Meryl Nietsch-Cooperman

We’re proud as husband and wife of 28 years to study and teach Aesthetic Realism, founded in 1941 by Eli Siegel, the American poet and philosopher.

Here you’ll find information about the ways this education has changed our lives—as to love and marriage, the understanding of eating disorders, the art of acting, and the everyday questions of men and women.

Update

I’m very proud to have written the Aesthetic Realism Foundation’s 2024 fundraising letter. In it, I tell some of the great good effect of this education on my life, including as to love, acting, the hope to have big feelings and what opposes that. You can read the letter here.

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