Every man wants to feel he’s strong—that he’s sharp, can take care of himself and not be pushed around. We also want to have large feelings, be swept by the beauty and honesty of a woman, the grandeur of a sunset. Can we have both toughness and big feelings, can we be strong and tender, […]

I once thought kindness and strength had nothing to do with each other. I wanted to be kind when, in high school, I joined a program to teach poor children in Ft. Lauderdale to read. But I felt to be strong you had to look out for yourself, beat out other people, get what you […]

In an Aesthetic Realism class some time ago, Class Chair Ellen Reiss asked me: “Do you think you are generous or grudging?” At the time, I didn’t see how much that question had my whole life in it—these opposites had battled in me. For example, in 1973 I was cast in a play at a […]

“Do you think everyone is in a fight between great emotion and little emotion?” That is a question I was asked in one of the classes I attend for Aesthetic Realism consultants and associates, taught by Ellen Reiss. And the answer, I’ve learned, is yes. The deepest purpose of every person, Aesthetic Realism shows, is […]

I learned from Aesthetic Realism that a man needs to do all he can to understand his anger in order to be proud of himself. And the main thing we need to understand is that we have two completely different kinds of anger. In his lecture, Aesthetic Realism And Anger, Eli Siegel said: In a […]